Unconditional love is an illusion. Sacrifices and gifts are the reality. Once couples are able to give up the illusion and embrace the reality, they can be more authentic, more appreciative, and more realistic of what their relationship actually takes to thrive. … What is important is that both partners stay open and honest with one another, and realize that they might not be able to be what the other needs at all times or in every way. When they face those realities, the myth of unconditional love gives way to chosen and accepted conditions that are not only understandable but possible. Acceptance and forgiveness become the guardians that keep resentment and martyrdom defeated.
Know Thyself 