Love is the ultimate temptation.
In the initial stages it temporarily halts the thinking mind and you exist in your heart with a pure feeling of love.
That pure feeling leads to a rare kind of bliss.
To experience the bliss 24/7, one gets married.
After marriage is the honeymoon period, which may last quite a while, even years, and maybe for some a whole lifetime.
But, one cannot merely spend one’s whole time in the arms of one’s beloved.
A living has to be made.
In the course of living/making a living, one starts to transmogrify into a different version of oneself, even if both had read each other’s personalities accurately to begin with.
Plus, the husband and wife each has their own karmic past that starts to impact their lives in unpredictable ways, either individually, or as the whole family unit.
Sometimes, it can even be their joint karma, or even the karma they have to experience as a family unit along with children.
Slowly, slowly, the relationship begins to unravel and one starts to wonder what it is that each one saw in the other that made them enter into a wedlock.
And a lock it feels like without a key anywhere in sight.
Then, all kinds of turns can happen in the married life, from indifference to cold hostility, from uncomfortable adjustment to “for the sake of children”, from philosophical resignation that “such is life and such are all relationships” to extramarital flings, and oftentimes a divorce.
If “they got married and lived happily ever after” were true, then would there not be more happiness and mirth in this world?
But, what does one see actually?
Misery all around, more or less. Or at any rate, a deep sense of dissatisfaction in everyone’s heart.
Then, what is one to do?
Just accept this sordid portrayal of how things unfold with a shrug of one’s shoulders?
Maybe there are some ways one can rescue oneself from this gloomy picture.
One is to realize this trajectory of time and not be fooled by the honeymoon phase so that one is better prepared when reality strikes.
Or, don’t get married at all.
But, to some being single may not be very appealing because they may feel that they will miss out on the positives of having a spouse, whatever be its negatives.
Should one then be willing to accept the risks of being in love?
I feel there is a way out of this denouement, whether one ends up getting married or chooses to stay single.
There are of course several practical ways of dealing with life, whether one is married or is single.
What I want to suggest is for you to have an insight into this whole thing.
That insight would tell you that the happiness of love and/or wedlock is on account of the forgetting of one’s egoic self.
And what is that egoic self but “I-Me-Mine”.
When one drops the “I-Me-Mine” trap, then one can be happy whether one is married or not.
So, it is not a question of falling in love with someone but rather falling out of love with one’s egoic self.
Understand this and be at peace.
Know Thyself 