I wrote to this spiritually awakening person:
š I like that order — [Wife’s name] loves you, and then Bye, though I think you are trying to say you did not say “I” love you.
However, realize (at least intellectually) that the “—” [wife] pot is also nothing but a name-and-form of the Awareness that you have now realized yourself to be and so is the “—-” [husband] a pot and also a name-and-form of that very Awareness you are.
It may “seem” like the pot is different from clay, which is the initial process to start to disidentify with the pot (—‘s body-mind) that one hitherto took to be one’s sole identity, but as one slowly stabilizes in it, one will be able to embrace that pot also as no different from oneself the Awareness out of which all those other pots are also constituted.