Category: Psychology
Alain de Botton on Love
Good Breakup Lines to Keep in Mind
In one relationship or another of yours there may come a time when you want to breakup BUT you do … More
“What are we here on earth for?”
Much as I love her, yes I do, Much as she does not love me Though she cares for me, … More
Is Everything Predestined?
Summa Iru: On Desire, Ignorance, and the Vicious Cycle That Isn’t — What I Wrote to My Kalyana Mitra and Claude’s Critique of It
What is Vedanta’s final instruction, once the four yogas, the scriptures, and the practices are stripped away? Summa iru — be still. But if stillness is the goal, why does the mind refuse it? This letter traces a four-link chain — ignorance, desire, thought, action — to argue that the “obstacles” of Buddhist Abhidharma’s kleshas are symptoms of desire, and desire itself is a symptom of the deeper ignorance that we are body-mind alone. A companion critique examines the circularity this seems to create, and asks whether stillness must be achieved through effort, or simply uncovered by inquiry.
Hermann Hesse on Solitude
Most men, the herd, have never tasted solitude. They leave father and mother, but only to crawl to a wife … More
When Feelings Turn into Strangers: Purity, Compassion, and the Loosening of Worldly Bonds
In isolation, even once-intense emotions can begin to feel like strangers seeking attention — a sign, if genuine, that one’s bonds with the world are loosening. But this loosening is not an end in itself: its authenticity is tested by what remains. Where being is pure, feelings coalesce into compassion alone; where the ego persists, they remain self-serving, whatever else they resemble. Drawing on the Bhagavad Gita’s vision of the sage who sees a Brahmin, a cow, and an outcaste with equal eyes, this piece explores why true compassion is never particular — and how to tell purity apart from mere numbness.
Don’t Worry About the Future — It is Already Fixed
Here is the email I wrote to my younger sister Kavitha just now, who is travelling with her family in … More
No Happiness Outside
Here I am sitting alone At past 1 am, mulling on What never was the case One which I thought … More