The spiritual or psychological transformation involves rejecting the belief in a delusional self and working on the process of ethnicization of self through the Buddhist way of understanding the world and human mind. Once we learn to believe that there is no self, soul, ego or I, permanently residing inside us, we learn to dissociate ourselves from the desire to want more from outside. We eventually learn to live with compassion for others which is derived from the fact that if I love myself how can I not love the other? The degree of compassion depends directly on how much we become dispassionate towards overindulgence.
This compassionate self working in dispassion is a concrete self that eventually realises its interdependence and interconnectedness with others and takes the initiative in rejecting the self-destructive attributes based on projection and scapegoating. In Buddhism, men and women who cling to their masculine and feminine egos, cannot achieve nibbana [nirvana].
Know Thyself 