Many believe that the purpose of marriage is self-actualization. We find the partner who will come alongside us and help us become what we have always dreamed we would be. Conversely, we may think that a potential spouse who would get in the way of our dreams is the wrong person for us.
What if marriage is meant to be something else?
Few of us become everything that we dreamed. One reason is that our dreams can often be shockingly selfish. How could our dreams account for people we have yet to meet? Marriages involve the collision of hopes when the spouses and children of our imagination put on flesh. We discover much to our surprise that they too are persons with aspirations of their own. The question can become: Whose dream will win?
Know Thyself 